Mind, Body,and Soul Series

Hey ladies! Welcome to day 2 of the week 1 of our series:

____ is a three week series where we learn tips, techniques, and points for our goal of transformation and renewal. We have three weeks to work on ourselves so we can start off feeling revived and refreshed to take on new projects, businesses, and plans that we may have in the second half of 2018 and the new school year. Ultimately our aim is to pour into ourselves, so we can better pour into others. For us women, we often put self care on the bottom of our to-do list after performing our wifey duties, taking care of our children, running our homes, being the president of the PTA, having 5 businesses and ministries, and taking over the world. No wonder we get burnt out and we are tired all the time! Self care needs to be at the top. How can we be better moms, teachers, managers, leaders, or women if we do not take care of the women in the mirror?

 

Meditation

Welcome back ladies! I hope you are all enjoying your first week of getting your spirituality on. How do you feel? Hopeful? Happy?

 

Today we are focusing on meditation, as part two of our soul transformation. Slow down and take a deep breath. Relax. Inhale. Exhale. Repeat. Now that you are relaxed…let’s begin to meditate on our dive into meditation.

 

Meditation is the act of “thinking deeply or focusing one’s mind for a period of time, in silence or with the aid of chanting, for religious or spiritual purposes or as a method of relaxation” (Oxford Dictionary). To reflect is to meditate. To think, contemplate, and consider are forms of meditation as well.

 

“I am depressed. My life is falling apart. Things are hopeless!!”

 

The thoughts in our head and what we think of are important. Those thoughts dictate how we behave. Those thoughts dictate how we feel. It is so vital to think good, positive, uplifting thoughts. When you meditate and think of negative slander against yourself, you are creating a world of hopelessness. To meditate and consider the mean words people say to you, you are creating a world of insecurity. Stressing out is meditating on everything going wrong. Thinking negatively will have you start behaving negatively. You WON’T go further with your passions. You WON’T try out that new class. You WON’T even speak up about causes you care about! It is because you are listening to that ugly chatter in your brain telling you that you are not worthy. Instead, let’s begin meditating and being grateful on things that are going right! Trust, we will feel a lot better.

 

Personally I meditate on scripture verses from the Bible. God’s Word is what keeps me going. I meditate on it day and night (Psalm 1:2). His Word cheers me up, makes me feel loved, motivates me, inspires me, and comforts me. The Word reminds me that things will be OK. I then start to relax. I breathe normally again. I let go. And I am happy despite any chaos that is going on around me.

 

In the mornings, when you first wake up, start to meditate. Keep a list of affirmations, positive quotes, or bible scripture, and start to repeat them over and over again. Slow down and dissect the phrase and apply it to your daily life. What do you need to trust God about? Where in the workplace do you need to have more courage? Think about that and remember to trust Him and that you are courageous. To be victorious over our day, means being able to grab that list and leave it various places at our job or in our car, so whenever we are down, we can always refer to the list and be lifted back up. Keep meditating whenever you need to.

 

Focus and dwell on favorable thoughts. Thoughts that are helpful, good, and lovely  (Philippians 4:8). Us ladies got no time for negativity!! We have things to do, people to see, and places to go. Grab those thoughts of insecurity, of hopelessness, of envy, bitterness, and greed, and throw them away forever. These thoughts slow us down, make us weak, and destroy us. Start meditating on encouraging affirmations, Bible scripture, and anything you can find that is positive; and begin to see how your entire life (yes, your family, your marriage, your career, your passions, etc.) changes for the better.

Week One

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Hey ladies!

Welcome to week 1 of my series:

____ is a three week series where we learn tips, techniques, and points for our goal of transformation and renewal. We have three weeks to work on ourselves so we can start off feeling revived and refreshed to take on new projects, businesses, and plans that we may have in the second half of 2018 and the new school year. Ultimately our aim is to pour into ourselves, so we can better pour into others. For us women, we often put self care on the bottom of our to-do list after performing our wifey duties, taking care of our children, running our homes, being the president of the PTA, having 5 businesses and ministries, and taking over the world. No wonder we get burnt out and we are tired all the time! Self care needs to be at the top. How can we be better moms, teachers, managers, leaders, or women if we do not take care of the women in the mirror?

This week we are focusing on our spirituality.

Spirituality

Let me ask, what is human spirituality and why is it important? I have 3 kids and I take them all to soccer practice, art club, and taekwondo. I have a job and make decent money every year, of course it would be amazing if I am able to make some more. I have bad days here and there, I can lose a couple pounds, my house is a little messy, I do get stressed out a lot, but hey, I’m still breathing right? Aren’t we all on the same boat here?

No, we are not all on the same boat. When the waves get tough, some boats sink and some boats withstand the turbulence but remain strong and defect free. The difference between the two boats is that the first boat does not have a good foundation. It was manufactured wrong with weak materials and it suddenly ruptured. The second boat was made of strong and durable material that lasts, able to go through anything without falling apart. The question is- will you sink or swim?

People that are spiritual are described as “gracious, optimistic, compassionate, and self-actualized”, according to Psychologytoday. To be gracious and compassionate is to be forgiving, empathetic, kind, and merciful. Being optimistic is looking on the bright side. And self-actualized means finding your purpose, your gifts, and your talents.

When life gets tough, how do we react? When someone cuts us off in our lane, do we curse them out and yell at them? Or are we forgiving, letting them go by because maybe they are driving to a hospital to visit a sick loved one. When our own child is sick, do we throw in the towel giving up on all treatments, or do we look on the bright side and thank God that He made medicine? When we feel lost, when we do not know what to do, when we feel hopeless, when we feel insecure, and stressed out- do we figure out how to use our skills to start a new company, to use our time more wisely, and to follow our passions, or do we just give up, call it a day (or even call it a life), and decide that we are going to stay miserable forever.

Being spiritual provides us with a rock solid foundation. As a Christ-follower, whenever I feel like my boat is sinking, I simply call out to God and suddenly, my boat isn’t sinking. I am swimming, I am moving forward, I am reaching my destination and the waves do not consume me. Thank God! He provides that rock solid boat, that even when I feel like I am sinking, I am not really sinking. When I am stressed out because I can’t pay my bills on time or I ran out of ideas for new income streams, I can simply call out to God. He will use my talents, gifts, and skills to point me in the RIGHT direction, instead of me aimlessly trying to figure out life on my own. He is faithful to provide and to guide. That is where our optimism comes in. How can we be optimistic when things go wrong? We usually can’t. Some of us crumble under pressure. With God, we are able to stand tall and have victory over adversity. He works all things together for our good, so even when we feel like it’s a misfortune, we know in the end, it will be for our benefit.

What material boat will you choose? Will you choose the boat that sinks to the bottom of the ocean floor, drowning in worry, stress, hopelessness, and mundanity? Or, will you choose to work on your spirituality, so you can conquer life. Honey, it is important to choose to have some type of spiritual foundation. If not- you will burn out, if you haven’t already at one point in your life. That spiritual dose in your life will provide you rest and rejuvenation. With that rest and revival, you can be gracious towards the people in the parking lot, and YOURSELF. Kind, forgiving, compassionate, loving, optimistic about your own life. Be nice to yourself! You deserve it.  Plus, since YOU’RE good, you can be good to OTHERS, and in return, people will be good TO YOU. And if they aren’t, at least now you know to be forgiving and compassionate, which will make you feel a lot better than being bitter and angry.

Signed,

-A Dear Friend

Self Care For 2018

2017 has come to an end and it is time to embrace 2018. I’m pretty sure that this past year has been an interesting roller coaster ride. This year my primary focus has been set on my family, which is not a bad thing but I didn’t set time aside for me.I didn’t do much to my hair or makeup, and I decided that I’m going to set more time for me.
So I am encouraging you to focus on Self Care.

If you can’t afford to do some of the things on your self care list here are a 10 tips to practice self care in 2018.

Here are some tips to make sure that you are taking care of yourself:

Coffee-time: I know that we all have experience the “don’t talk me until I have my coffee”. Coffee-time for me is sacred and it definitely gives me life. I mostly drink our coffee in the morning which gives me the opportunity to reflect on my day and to figure out what adventure my daughter and I would embark on.

Massage/facial: Getting a massage or facial can definitely relax the body and relieve stress. It also releases the toxins and leads to recovering with muscles pain and it releases endorphins & enhances your mood.

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Bubble bath w/ aromatherapy(essential oils): My favorite essential oils are Eucalyptus, lavender, and lemongrass; they hold the healing properties of muscle aches, colds, anxiety,and mood swings.Enjoy a large glass of wine and soak those worries away.

Mani/Pedi: If you get the opportunity to leave the house for a few hours take the time to get a much needed mani/pedi. You need to relax, relate and release; you can’t expect to be helpful to your family or those around you if you don’t take time for yourself. Do you!

Yoga/Meditation: Yoga and meditation has definitely changed my life, especially when I get stressed out or I just want to be healthy in my mind and body. With meditation I am able to reflect on the things that may affect me whether it is parenting or balancing entrepreneurship. I love how I am able to strengthen my body through yoga and use meditation for self awareness.

Journal: Journaling is definitely something that I encourage everyone to do. You are able to be creative or you can write about your troubles to help let them go. I know that we all have moments where we feel that no one understands what you are going through, but if you write it down then you are able to free yourself from that burden.

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Lazy Day: Recently I took the time to do almost absolutely nothing, I was determined to relax and not to run myself crazy. Having a lazy day gives you the opportunity to take care of yourself and to do less as possible.

Vacation: Pack you an overnight bag and get you can an Airbnb and go have fun. Take the time not planning your getaway.

Get dolled up: Recently I’ve got back into makeup and I decided to make this my mandatory mommy-time. I am loving how I am able to be creative and enjoy the time to myself. You can get dolled up and you don’t have to go anywhere.

Binge watch movies/shows: During this holiday season I’ve been binge watching everything HallMark. I love a romantic Christmas story, especially when they have an adorable story line. Hallmark is so great even when they have the same story line but it gets addictive.

Some of my favorite sites to use for finding discounted hotels, spa, hair packages, and etc is Groupon, Living social and Airbnb.Check them out! (This is not sponsored)

I hope that my 2018 Self care tips are helpful to you. You have to remember that you need to make time to slow down and make time for you!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!