Straight away, if you’re reading this post, allow me to tip my hat to you! First for considering motherhood, then for enrolling in school, and lastly for contemplating running a business at the same time. You must be as crazy as I am! Even if you find yourself with a helpful significant other or a phenomenal childcare situation, and especially in the case that you haven’t, just know that you are not alone. I have been flying this mission solo for the last 19 months! Have no doubt in your mind that you can do it too, and hopefully these tips will help.
1. Get organized. When I’ve completed my tasks at the end of each night, I make a list of what has to get done the next day and prepare the things I’ll need in order to complete each item on the list. Getting it all out on paper before bed helps me in two ways: I don’t lay awake at night with these thoughts swirling in my head and ruining any chance of restful sleep, and I don’t forget something, spend too much time in the morning preparing, or rush through everything the next day. I also take this time to review my calendar to add last minute meetings, play dates, etc. Getting organized will help you to better manage your time, and the key to time management is priority. The first thing on my calendar are my non-negotiable appointments. For me, that’s anything pertaining to my kids and family, then class assignments, and so on. Decide what these are and keep them. To those tiny humans, you are your word.
2. Learn how to swing a bat. The last 3 years of my life have been curve ball after curve ball…after curve ball. It’s how I know I’m doing something right. Many times, you hear moguls talk about alignment and things falling into place when you are in your purpose. My purpose has been in my heart and my gut, but nothing has gone according to plan since I chose to pursue it. For some, like me, this is a path of growth, and that means resistance. So expected the unexpected and keep swinging for the fences, even if you miss. No one is counting how many swings you take, only the number of balls you hit.
3. Always have fun. Doubt, fear, anxiety, judgement. You will know these feelings better than you know your neighbors. You met them when you found out your first child was coming into the world. And again when you sent your application to become a student. Starting a business – well you may as well have asked them to move in with you. How do I evict them when they have overstayed their welcome? Some days it takes longer than others, but I have to. I have to reach deep down into the belief I draw from caring for my family. Part of that caring is showing them that there’s more to life than trading your time for money to do something that doesn’t light up your soul. It’s showing them the importance of pausing for a moment to enjoy that moment: my baby taking his first steps or my toddler showing me lines he learned from his favorite movie. Also, it’s self-care. Indulge in that chocolate lava cake to celebrate a small win and take a hot bath with a tall glass of wine.
4. (And final) Ask for help! Sometimes I get so caught up in my “Boss mom can do-it-all” attitude and all it gets me is a hot ticket straight to the land of burnt-out-babes. Maybe you’re not the most organized person, but I bet you know someone who is. Staying up late several nights a week to clean up your website or call clients? Perhaps join a couple of moms on a kid swap so you can schedule some regular beauty rest. Those cliche’s about teamwork are time tested; don’t be afraid (or ashamed) to reach out a hand. Like I said up top: You’re not alone.
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