Traveling with a toddler “post Surgery”

Hey Y’all!

Sooo… my daughter and I recently went on a cross country adventure to Los Angeles. When I tell y’all the first flight of the day was hell ( lol).

When I say she raised sand for 2 hours straight! She was unhappy and indecisive. I even downloaded all of her favorite movies and shows. I even packed her favorite snacks. Nothing really worked 😦



There was even a rude passenger in front of us who beat on the wall every time she got upset. To some people’s perception my daughter appears to be older but I have to remind people that she is only a year old.(she will be two in December)


She has flown before when she first turned one, and she was still in the infant stage. She would nap at any slight movement. Now!!! Nope!


I really prepared for this trip by snack and sippy cup. I purchased the Mommy and me handcuffs. Puzzles, crayons, favorite toys, and her blanket “baby”.IMG-4869

I purchased my travel cuffs through Amazon for $10.

Travel essentials are key to your success.


Returning home:

We flew out of LAX at 6am and we weren’t due to Miami until 4:30pm, with a connection flight to Charlotte NC. My daughter slept for the first few hours and then….


On this flight home I packed her “baby”, her mess free coloring set, and her Minnie Mouse plush toy. A course our snacks on the trip is popcorn, goldfish and cheese puffs “Cheeto dust lol”.


This trip home was very successful because Mariah adjusted to the flight and we even lucked up with their being a spare seat in our row and they allowed my daughter to have it (# winning).IMG-4846


Even though Mariah is turning two in a couple months, we have decided that it is time to buy her own seat. Mariah is really strong and she is really fast, so with her sitting in my lap post surgery was probably not one of my best ideas.


Mariah earned her wings!

Key points:

  • Schedule your flights around naptime/bedtime
  • Pack your toddler’s favorite activities/toys
  • The flight attendants will offer snacks, but toddlers to get bored. Pack their favorite go to snacks, ie goldfish, graham crackers, gummy snacks, pre popped popcorn, and juice.
  • Ignore the mean looks or concerns of those on the flight who get upset when your child is irritable “the hell with them”.


Post Surgery:

I decided that I wanted to go to my sister’s funeral so of a course I had to go through the channels of getting the approval of family, doctors and my physical therapist. Everyone was really stressed about the possibility of blood clots or not being able to commute on and off of the plane. I did take the precautions of ordering wheelchair assistance. Also on the flight I performed my leg exercises to build my leg strength, I even left my walker and cane at home. I felt that dragging all of that around would be stressful and quite annoying.


Traveling with a toddler has definitely been an experience especially when your LO is experiencing things for the first time. She was interactive with the flight attendants and she was able to spend time with her grandparents and cousin.

It was really awesome being able to spend time with family and build on a business. We initially went out to Los Angeles due to the passing of my sister Toni, but I was able to use this time to bond and work on various business opportunities. Sometimes you have to make the best out of a sad situation.

I believe that if you continue to travel to with your LO then it will become something that they are accustomed  to. Things will get a little easier, hey no one said travelings with kids was easy. Hopefully me sharing my experience with you will help.

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Balancing Boys, Entrepreneurship and being a Full time student…


Straight away, if you’re reading this post, allow me to tip my hat to you! First for considering motherhood, then for enrolling in school, and lastly for contemplating running a business at the same time. You must be as crazy as I am! Even if you find yourself with a helpful significant other or a phenomenal childcare situation, and especially in the case that you haven’t, just know that you are not alone. I have been flying this mission solo for the last 19 months! Have no doubt in your mind that you can do it too, and hopefully these tips will help.

1. Get organized. When I’ve completed my tasks at the end of each night, I make a list of what has to get done the next day and prepare the things I’ll need in order to complete each item on the list. Getting it all out on paper before bed helps me in two ways: I don’t lay awake at night with these thoughts swirling in my head and ruining any chance of restful sleep, and I don’t forget something, spend too much time in the morning preparing, or rush through everything the next day. I also take this time to review my calendar to add last minute meetings, play dates, etc. Getting organized will help you to better manage your time, and the key to time management is priority. The first thing on my calendar are my non-negotiable appointments. For me, that’s anything pertaining to my kids and family, then class assignments, and so on. Decide what these are and keep them. To those tiny humans, you are your word.

2. Learn how to swing a bat. The last 3 years of my life have been curve ball after curve ball…after curve ball. It’s how I know I’m doing something right. Many times, you hear moguls talk about alignment and things falling into place when you are in your purpose. My purpose has been in my heart and my gut, but nothing has gone according to plan since I chose to pursue it. For some, like me, this is a path of growth, and that means resistance. So expected the unexpected and keep swinging for the fences, even if you miss. No one is counting how many swings you take, only the number of balls you hit.


3. Always have fun. Doubt, fear, anxiety, judgement. You will know these feelings better than you know your neighbors. You met them when you found out your first child was coming into the world. And again when you sent your application to become a student. Starting a business – well you may as well have asked them to move in with you. How do I evict them when they have overstayed their welcome? Some days it takes longer than others, but I have to. I have to reach deep down into the belief I draw from caring for my family. Part of that caring is showing them that there’s more to life than trading your time for money to do something that doesn’t light up your soul. It’s showing them the importance of pausing for a moment to enjoy that moment: my baby taking his first steps or my toddler showing me lines he learned from his favorite movie. Also, it’s self-care. Indulge in that chocolate lava cake to celebrate a small win and take a hot bath with a tall glass of wine.

4. (And final) Ask for help! Sometimes I get so caught up in my “Boss mom can do-it-all” attitude and all it gets me is a hot ticket straight to the land of burnt-out-babes. Maybe you’re not the most organized person, but I bet you know someone who is. Staying up late several nights a week to clean up your website or call clients? Perhaps join a couple of moms on a kid swap so you can schedule some regular beauty rest. Those cliche’s about teamwork are time tested; don’t be afraid (or ashamed) to reach out a hand. Like I said up top: You’re not alone.




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The Go To Guide :Packing for a Beach/Zoo trip!

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Image: April’s baby giraffe, “Tajiri”

Have you ever gone to the beach or zoo and you were over the experience within the first hour? Then you have come to the right place. Here is a short survival guide to make it through those tough adventures. Enjoy this awesome read!

When going to the beach/zoo you have to make sure that you have your essentials or your family outing is going to be short lived.

We have all gone somewhere that is suppose to be really enjoyable , but it feels more like a punishment because you are missing those satisfying essentials.

As you can tell by the sort of suspenseful jabber that this blog totally focuses on what you need to have in your cooler or backpack.

Well, here are some things that will turn that dreadful day into a fabulous adventure. (this will totally make your life a lot easier)

Tommy Bahama - Pineapple Deluxe Backpack Beach Chair This chair got GREAT reviews! Lots of good stuff!

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The Beach List

  • Cooler
  • Towels
  • Beach Mat
  • Umbrella/ Tent
  • Sunglasses/Hat
  • Sunscreen
  • Fold-able chairs (no one wants sand on their butt lol)
  • Baby Powder W/ cornstarch based (this is to remove the sand)


I highly suggest that you freeze your drinks!

  • Water infused with fruit and mint
  • Simple Meals: Chicken salad or lettuce based salad
  • Pasta Salad
  • Frozen Yogurt
  • Various dry snacks

Even when going on a zoo excursion you are going to need the food items because depending on your family size buying food is going to get pricey. Plus who wants to wait in those long lines, everyone will be all tired and over the trip. It is best to prepare for the unexpected.

Make life an adventure because you don’t want to miss out on awesome memories sweating the small stuff!


Donna P.